So obviously meeting and dating women who honestly don't mind a guy's height is rare.  But as someone pointed out to me once while I was lamenting about it, why would I want to date someone who's concerned with my height anyway?

It got me thinking, they were right. Height is an automatic filter that uses other people's discomfort at possibly liking a short guy to remove them from your dating pool. I know this sounds crazy, but think about it.... Would you really want to date someone that holds your height against you? Honestly??

So let people remove themselves from your presence, and what you are left with is gold as far as dating, friends and work.

Life can be hard for us shorter men.  Why?  Because some people ridicule us for our height.  These people don't give us respect, dignity, nor voice.  Instead, they give us treatment as if we are 'children'.  This post is to grant tips to cope for the shorter man.  You are free to not take these tips; however, I will say that these tips have helped me.

1.  Avoid various social media and online articles.  Why?  Because they tend to be superficial and disingenuous.  Using these can destroy your self-esteem and provoke anger - very unhealthy.  Instead of relying on online articles for sources, I recommend looking at the generic newspaper or academic texts.

2.  Pursue your hobbies.  Why?  Because it takes away negativity in the mind.  Instead of focusing on hurtful memories or people, change the channel and focus on something fun!  You like building models?  Invest in various model sets where you can build and be proud of your creation!  Like reading?  Go buy some exciting books!  Like making art?  Grab yourself a sketchbook and conte crayon, make creation!  Focus on hobbies that you love doing!  Trust me, it helps.

3.  Pursue your career.  Why?  You ever hear the mantra, "Respect is earned."?  This saying can be used for our advantage because it can go hand in hand with your career.  I'm a 5'1 dude, and I have to say, people have been giving me major respect for my career-oriented progress.  I go to one of the best higher education institutions in the world.  The point that I am trying to make, is aiming high can lead to happiness.  With more success or education, you will receive more respect and better treatment.  Also, as you know, education can lead to high-powered careers.  You know those careers, where bullies don't have the brain capacity and wit to attain?  Yes, those.  If you get into these careers, you can avoid these bullies, whom we know as superficial and hurtful.  There will be less of these people, and instead, you will be surrounded by mostly determined and positive people, which is healthy!

4.  Take down 'walls'!  What do I mean by this?  Walls are various perceptions that people hold when socializing.  They can be anything really... both positive and negative!  Get rid of the negative walls!  A negative wall can be the constant thought that the person is judging your height.  Get rid of this wall!  You don't even know if they are thinking about this!  All I say is, socialize without any walls, or false perceptions.  

5.  Get rid of external validation!  The ridding of external validation...  This is superficialness's archenemy ;).  Apparently superficialness runs rampant in the world!  It's looming presence 'dehumanizes' people!  After all, look what it did to some of us...  That's why we must rid it's major mechanic - external validation.  Superficialness calls for the individual to get validated by others through physical characteristics, i.e., external validation.  We don't need this!  Get rid of it!  I got rid of external validation because I don't need some 'girl' or 'dude' judging me!  I judge myself!  Hell, I think I'm a 10/10.   

Well, I hope the tips help you.  Love 'em, hate 'em,  It's all up to you.  Quite frankly, it was fun and enamoring writing this post!  The goal of this post is to uplift the downtrodden and troubled men experiencing heightism; nonetheless, I think these can be used by anyone who is going through negativity!  Take care, and be positive!   

(Reddit) As A Plus Sized Woman, What Irritates You In Dating?

The parallels between what Short Men talk about and what fat chicks talk about are almost so identical, of course except that the key to all of their (fatties) problems are within literal reach. Anyone of them can get up on any day and lose f**** weight. I don't care how hard it is. Either be happy being a fatty or lose weight and be like everyone else! Check out some of the things people said on that post

• guys who want to fuck you but would never actually date a fat girl
• That I'm not allowed to have standards or dealbreakers, that fatty should just be happy with what she gets.
• Guys who act like they deserve a pat on the back for dating me or shit talk skinny/fit women to contrast. "I'm not like other guys, I hate skin and bones, I like extra meat on a woman". Shut the fuck up.
• I always felt like I couldn't initiate things because I couldn't assume if a guy would be okay with a chubbier girl. I didn't want to offend a guy by coming on to him. I had to let the guy be the one to ask me. It was the only way to be okay with it.
• I lost seventy pounds but what i fucking hated about dating at my highest weight is that i would be up front with people about my weight in an internet dating or friend of friend set up situation. Full body pics (clothed), no fancy angles, sometimes even gave them a fucking number on a scale and it never failed that two of the guys would be like, ON THE DATE and tell me to my face that "oh i didn't realize you were THAT big" when i honestly overcommunicated my size to avoid that sort of situation. Also got a guy who wanted to be my trainer.
• People telling me "Oh, you're awesome. You're perfect and I'd date you in a heartbeat if you were thinner". How about go fuck yourself! I wouldn't date you if I was thinner or fatter.Guys seem to think this is a big fucking compliment. It's not.

How can these chicks not see the similarities? Do I feel sorry for them? Nope. Chances are they too are on the "nope won't date a guy shorter than me" bandwagon.

I read this on reddit and it made me think. He has a point. I mean, not to bash us or anything but a woman really shouldn't be called shallow for seeking traits she wants in a life partner. Thoughts?

"Discriminating about height in romance isn't a shallow thing. That's a permanent trait & therefore longterm realism in action.

It's not like being put off by crooked teeth, the name of someone's fave band or even the lack of an education

It would be shallow not to get past the crooked teeth because they're not necessarily forever.

But getting somebody of the wrong height is something that's seen down the generations. Can't be escaped. It isn't "shallow" to take a pass on something so far-reaching."

After looking at heightism on Wikipedia, it is shown that there are some places that regulate height discrimination; however, are there any other places for which the shorter man can migrate to?  Is there any place in the world where height is not looked at in terms of careers and women?  I'm curious, what are your thoughts on some parts of Europe? or Japan?   

Please express your thoughts on MGTOW.  A lot of women nowadays judge men based on an unfair criteria.  Why should there be investment towards them?  

Hi guys. I have seen everywhere how women have a strong preference for tall men.. I have seen this in my family, on the internet, on the movies, etc... Now, "unfortunately" (from women's viewpoint) there aren't enough tall men in this world.. as a result many women will end up marrying a "short" man. and I quote the word "short" because I don't understand how can a woman call "short" a man who is 2 or 3 inches taller than her.. I mean a woman who is 5'4'' tall is likely to call short a man who is 5'7''... but how can she call him 'short" if he is 3 inches taller than her? either way... my question is... how can a short man ever feel confident about his wife's love towards him? how can he be sure that she didn't "settle down" with him because she was unable to find a tall man?

Hello everyone!

So, I was informed about this site and thought I'd check it out. Interesting, I must admit. I am a 5'4 female, who was previously married to a man who claimed he was 5'8, but in actuality was approximately 5'3. Never called him out on it because I loved him and didn't want to make him feel bad about his insecurities. However, based of that one traumatic experience, I highly doubt I will EVER date a short man again, hence my username NEVERAGAIN. His height issues had an effect of many aspects of his life, which is why I call it "traumatic". I've only dated taller men (5'11 and up) since and even they have had height insecurities (believe it or not).

Anyhow, one of the main reasons I could never see myself with another short man again is because of them being so insecure, which is an EXTREME turn off to me. I understand everyone has their insecurities, but I feel that height is one of those issues that you cant do much about, so get the hell over it and focus on something else.