What is the height of your mom? I don't know if it's ignorance or that parents don't think it's a "big deal" for their child. I don't know why any parent over the last 30 or 40 years would overlook things like this.

I would be angry for a very, very, very long time. I would imagine that many other men would be too because you failed your child in a very important area which will have an extreme affect on his overall quality of life professional, dating, social. 

Being a great involved mom is something you're supposed to be by default, but looking out for his interests and his future quality of life is just as important.

Thanks for sharing btw.

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Not as involved as you think you were. Most of us who are short have to "learn to accept" it and deal with it, but very few of us would chose to be so if we knew ahead of time how society treats us. While I am comfortable with who I am now, if I found out that my mother's ignorance and inability to be proactive prevented me from being a few inches taller I would be livid.

I'm so sorry that you cry about it.  You did not do this intentionally-- it was an oversight.  You did what you knew to do, and no less.  Please don't beat yourself up over it any longer. No parent is perfect; once we see our kids as adults being parents, we realize all the things we should have done or nor done, and we grieve, but we can't change the past.  Be proactive now.  Do everything you can think of to help him accept, deal with, and get past his lifelong handicap.  Love him, assure him, study the problem with him and help him to find all the best advice on how to cope with it.  Don't tell him what you found out-- not just yet at least. Keep it under wraps for now and wait until you have shown him that you want to help him deal with this issue effectively and prosper as a young man despite his noticeable disadvantage.  You will know when the time comes and then you can tell him.  He will always thank you for the time you invested in helping him NOW while he is still trying to establish himself in the world.  Read all you can about it.  Read Ralph Keyes's books.  Figure out what he is going through and live it with him if you can.  

Try this on for comparison: my mother did things during her pregnancy with me that stunted my growth. She did them because she was childish, willful, and ignorant. She didn't intend to harm an unborn baby, but did foolish things that did.  When I was a tender 16-18 years old, and fretting about my lack of size, she was of no help to me at all-- she said silly, stupid things that only made it far worse. Till the day she died, she never reflected how much it hurt me and damaged my self-esteem.  Now, many tears and many years later, I am viewed by the people around me as a successful, influential, accomplished man who has appeared on TV and in newspapers a number of times because of my talents, and to all of them my height of 5'4" is of no import.  My mother had no part in helping me do that-- I owe that to my friends, my wife, and my most of all my faith in my Savior.     

Be the mom I didn't have.